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  1. Books by Cathy Cassidy
  2. Contents
  3. 1. Friends Forever?
  4. Making Friends
  5. Keeping Friends
  6. Falling Out
  7. Helpbox
  8. Read It…
  9. Websites:
  10. THE FRIENDSHIP CHARTER: 6 EASY STEPS TO MAKING A DIFFERENCE
  11. Cathy’s Books… Published by Puffin
  12. 2. Growing Up
  13. Body Matters
  14. Girl Talk
  15. Skin Deep
  16. Mixed-Up Feelings
  17. Helpbox
  18. Read It…
  19. Websites:
  20. Cathy’s Books… Published by Puffin
  21. 3. Boys, Boys, Boys
  22. First Crush
  23. Taking Your Time
  24. Love Hurts
  25. Breaking Up
  26. Helpbox
  27. Read It…
  28. 4. School Daze
  29. School’s Cool!
  30. Teacher’s Pet?
  31. Teacher Trouble
  32. Work It Out
  33. School Blues
  34. Helpbox
  35. Read It…
  36. Websites:
  37. 5. Beat Bullying
  38. Don’t Pick On Me
  39. Sticks and Stones
  40. Speaking Out
  41. An End to Bullying
  42. Helpbox
  43. Read It…
  44. Websites:
  45. Helplines:
  46. 6. Confidence Tricks
  47. Accept Yourself!
  48. Making Friends With You!
  49. Look for the Good Stuff!
  50. Get Happy!
  51. Do it Anyway!
  52. Get Lucky!
  53. Helpbox
  54. Read It…
  55. 7. Being Yourself
  56. Who Am I?
  57. Style Matters
  58. Let It Out
  59. Peer Pressure
  60. Role Models
  61. Being Different
  62. There’s No Such Thing as Perfect
  63. Helpbox
  64. Read It…
  65. Websites:
  66. 8. Dream On
  67. Big Ideas
  68. Fame at Last
  69. Making It Happen
  70. Helpbox
  71. Read It…
  72. Read It…
  73. 9. Family Matters
  74. Super Strict?
  75. Brothers and Sisters
  76. Problem Parents…
  77. … and Parent Problems!
  78. Patchwork families
  79. Helpbox
  80. Read It…
  81. Websites:
  82. Helplines:
  83. 10. Sad Stuff
  84. Bereavement
  85. When Someone is Ill
  86. Scary Stuff
  87. Broken Families
  88. Helpbox
  89. Read It…
  90. Websites:
  91. Helplines:
  92. Email:
  93. Write to:
  94. 11. Things That Don’t Help…
  95. Don’t Worry!
  96. Little White Lies
  97. Self-destruct
  98. Rebel, Rebel
  99. Looking for Love?
  100. Hurting Inside
  101. Food Wars
  102. Running Away
  103. Helpbox
  104. Read It…
  105. Websites:
  106. Helplines:
  107. Email:
  108. 12. … and Things That Do!
  109. Negotiate!
  110. Talk It Over
  111. Expert Help
  112. Feeling Understood
  113. Express Yourself!
  114. Get Moving!
  115. Believe It or Not…
  116. Back to Nature
  117. Good Stuff!
  118. The Fab Five
  119. Helpbox
  120. Check Out:
  121. Websites:
  122. Helplines:
  123. Inspiration Box Things to Help on Blue Days!

Check with each teacher just what you need to revise, and ask for any help they can offer. Practise answering exam-type questions, for instance, so you know how to approach the exam paper itself.

Make a revision timetable, slotting in time to revise each subject, and start revising a couple of months before the exams. It sounds a lot, but giving yourself plenty of time means you can take it slowly and revise thoroughly. If you try to cram your revision in the night before the exam, you’ve only yourself to blame when it all goes pear-shaped!

Allow slots of one to two hours for each subject, and tackle one or two subjects each night. Take a break now and then for a snack, a rest and some exercise… even walking the dog round the block can help chase away the cobwebs, and you’ll come back to your revision feeling much more alert.

Don’t just flick through your books and expect the information to sink in… make notes and lists, copy out key facts, highlight important points. When I was revising back in high school, I’d copy my notes out several times to fix the facts in my head, and sometimes record facts on to a tape to play back. You can also get study-guides for your subjects, check out revision aids on the Internet, study with a friend and quiz each other, work through past papers, attend after-school study groups… whatever works for you.

Don’t leave it to chance, and don’t aim to just scrape through – this is your future we’re talking about. Some people enjoy the buzz of an exam, and do their best in a high-pressure situation. Others go to pieces, panic and forget what they’ve learnt… not so good. If you get nervous, try some slow, deep breathing to stop the panic in its tracks and tell yourself you are prepared… you CAN do it. However nervous you are, get a good night’s sleep and eat a healthy breakfast before every exam… your brain can’t perform if your body is running on empty.

Once you’re in the actual test or exam, read the questions through carefully, take a deep breath and do your best… that’s all anyone can ask of you.

School Blues

Cathy please help…

My mum has been ill and things are difficult at home. My school work is slipping because of this, and I’m afraid it will mess up my future. Plus, I’m often tired in class and my teachers are getting really hacked off with me.

gita, age 13

Dear Cathy

My mum and dad are fighting all the time these days. I don’t seem to be able to concentrate at school. Sometimes, I lose my temper with friends because their worries just seem so trivial compared to this. I just don’t see the point of school any more.

Lorri, age 12

Gita and Lorri both need to talk to their guidance tutors, class teachers or school counsellors, and soon. When things go wrong at home, school work often skids out of control, and that means trouble. Once you let things slide, it’s very hard to catch up – better to ask for help now.