When the right boy comes along, Kerri will know it – and it will be worth the wait.

Dear Cathy

I am crazy about a boy called Kyle. I’d like to ask him out, but I’m scared he’ll say no…

Kayleigh, age 13

Cathy

There’s a boy I like a LOT. We used to be friends back in primary school, but these days I just get really shy and tongue-tied when he’s around. My friends have offered to tell him how I feel… is that a good idea?

Lorna, age 13

Asking someone out is scary – whether you’re a boy or a girl! Kayleigh needs to get to know Kyle as a friend before she takes things any further… the two can get to know each other a little, suss out whether they have anything in common and whether there’s a spark of attraction there. If so, the chances are both will start sending out subtle signals that they like each other – what we usually call flirting, I guess!

It’s much easier to ask someone out if you think there’s a chance they might say yes. Kayleigh should keep things light and friendly, perhaps asking Kyle if he’s seen the latest film or if he’s ever been skating, and asking casually if he’d like to go along some time. If he does turn her down, she can shrug off the rejection and do her best to take it in her stride. There are all kinds of reasons why someone might choose not to accept a date – it doesn’t have to be a personal thing!

Falling for someone can make you feel awkward and shy when they’re around, but Lorna should try to beat the blushes and get chatting to the boy she likes. This is usually a better bet than letting friends take charge of things… often a fast-track to disaster! Why? News of your crush will spread like wildfire, which can be embarrassing. And facing up to a posse of loud and possibly pushy friends could send your crush running in the opposite direction! Not good.

Think about it – if you can’t find the courage to say hello to the boy you like, would you have the courage to go on a date with him?

Hey Cathy

My boyfriend and I talk a lot on Bebo and MSN, but at school we’re really shy with each other. And we never actually go on a date. Is this normal?

Nadine, age 12

Cathy

My boyfriend always takes me to the park or to the chip shop and it gets a bit boring sometimes. What else could we do? Neither of us have much money!

Marley, age 14

When you’re young, like Nadine, going out with someone may not mean romantic dates and red roses. Often, it’s just a way of saying you like someone – the actual ‘going out’ bit might not add up to much at all! If Nadine and her boyfriend are happy chatting on Bebo and MSN, that’s OK – they’re still getting to know each other, slowly. If it works for you, then it’s fine!