Hmmm… whatever we’ve got, we’d like something different! Big boobs can take some getting used to, as Amaal is finding. She needs to get measured properly for a bra so she gets the support she needs. A good bra can actually help her to look smaller and neater. To be measured professionally, try M&S or the bra section of any large department store. It’s not as embarrassing as it sounds, and the sales assistants are used to helping women of all ages, shapes and sizes.

See-through white school shirts in summer are a problem for all girls, big or small. Try wearing a plain, pretty vest underneath to spare the blushes.

Gemma too needs to accept that she’s a slinky, skinny shape – and try to be glad about it! The top catwalk models share her slim proportions, and like them, she’ll look good in almost any style. As for boys, for most of them, a pretty face and a fun personality count for a whole lot more than bra size – I promise.

Girl Talk

Hi Cathy

I’m think that my periods could start soon, but I don’t know how to tell my mum or ask her about pads… and I’d never have the courage to buy my own. How can I make sure I’m ready?

Charlie, age 12

Cathy

I really need a bra, but I don’t have the money to buy one for myself and I’m way too shy to ask my mum. She thinks I’m still six years old!

Eilidh, age 11

The thing about mums is that they were kids once too. They’ve been through all this puberty stuff themselves! They won’t be shocked or embarrassed or horrified. OK, some mums may not realize you’re growing up so fast, but let them know and they’ll be there for you.

Breaking the ice can be hard if you’re not used to talking about personal stuff with your mum, but choose a time when you’re alone together, take a deep breath… and do it. Once you’ve got things out in the open, your mum will take it from there. Growing up is a tricky time, and it really helps if you have someone you can talk it through with… a sympathetic mum is ideal, but if that’s not possible, confiding in a big sister/cousin/aunt can be a lifesaver.

Buying a bra – especially a first bra – is important. It’s best to get measured properly and be sure you have the right size, and Eilidh’s mum can arrange this and advise her. Charlie needs to tell her mum that she’s getting ready for her periods too, but buying pads doesn’t have to be a hassle. She can always tag along on the next supermarket trip and put a packet into the trolley… easy!

Help!

Some of my friends have started their periods, and I know I need to think about it too. Should I use pads or tampons? And what if I start while I’m at school? I’d die of shame!