Chapters (89)
- Also by Alexander McCall Smith
- COPYRIGHT
- Contents
- Preface
- 1. Nothing But Tenderness
- 2. A Very Considerate Husband
- 3. At Big Lou’s
- 4. Auden and Burns, and Bertie
- 5. Pre-Natal Classroom – for Babies
- 6. The Ways of Ulysses
- 7. Anthropological Issues
- 8. Domenica Has Coffee With Dilly
- 9. The Grosseto Road
- 10. The Return of Pat Macgregor
- 11. Pat’s Flat
- 12. The Green Hotel
- 13. On the 23 Bus
- 14. Regurgitation Issues
- 15. Edinburgh People
- 16. For Love or Money
- 17. The News from Arbroath
- 18. Ten Years with the Pygmies
- 19. The Question of Cosmetic Surgery
- 20. The Aphrodite of Dundas Street
- 21. Impressionists and Post-Impressionists
- 22. More About Baden-Powell
- 23. The Insouciance of Tofu
- 24. Some Sophisticated Colours
- 25. 100 Things for a Boy to Do: Part 1
- 26. 100 Things for a Boy to Do: Part 2
- 27. Forgery Exposed
- 28. A Game of Bridge
- 29. Underneath the Lamplight
- 30. Trust and Revelation
- 31. Pregnancy Plans
- 32. Dramatic, Life-Enhancing News
- 33. The Implications of Boys
- 34. Carnoustie Shortbread
- 35. Édouard Vuillard and the Interior Vision
- 36. Fear a’ Bhata
- 37. Political Crisis
- 38. Show and Tell
- 39. Which World Am I Living In?
- 40. A Moment on Queen Street
- 41. Psychotherapeutic Matters
- 42. Life and Chance
- 43. A Scotsman, His Life and Marriage
- 44. A Move to Moray Place
- 45. In Moray Place
- 46. What We Really Are
- 47. The Symbolism of Birds
- 48. The Breaking of the Heart
- 49. Chinoiserie
- 50. Matthew is Decisive
- 51. A Letter of Comfort
- 52. The Meaning of Always
- 53. An Offer is Made
- 54. The Therapeutic Hour
- 55. Men Can Cry
- 56. From Scotland With Love
- 57. Bonnie Irene’s Noo Awa
- 58. Painful Questions
- 59. Regret on Corstorphine Road
- 60. The Comfort of Friends
- 61. Big Lou on Art and Fashion
- 62. Unwelcome Thoughts
- 63. Italy At Last
- 64. Services to the Republic
- 65. The Impact of Italy
- 66. Pacta Sunt Servanda
- 67. An Outing Begins
- 68. The Need for Evidence
- 69. On Subsidence
- 70. Supporting Walls
- 71. Arrival at the Villa
- 72. Mistah Kurtz, He Dead
- 73. The Possibilities of Florence
- 74. In Proper Boots
- 75. The Haar Rolls In
- 76. A Real Boy’s Room
- 77. Bertie’s Dream
- 78. An Incident in a Café
- 79. Unbearable Beauty
- 80. Antonia’s Condition Explained
- 81. A Terrible Mistake
- 82. Shocking Developments
- 83. A Hinterland of Regret
- 84. Icarus, Cyril, a Ducati
- 85. The Timetable of Happiness
That is all to do with the social self – the bit that is determined by the fact of being a member of a group rather than being solitary; when it comes to the family, how much more vivid is the impression that one’s fate is formed by the actions of others. Each one of us is a palimpsest on which our parents have written, and beneath their writing is the writing of their parents. Thus is family pathology transmitted, and although behavioural geneticists may argue among themselves how genes determine behaviour, the rest of us have no difficulty in seeing familiar traits being passed on from parent to child to grandchild.
This explains, but may not comfort. A child unhappy today because his father is incapable of showing him affection may not know that his father was similarly deprived by his own father, and, even if he did, would be unlikely to be consoled by such knowledge. To be doing no more than to repeat the past is rarely viewed as an excuse, least of all in the eyes of children.
And even if complete freedom of will is illusory, there are still crucial decisions we make that we might not have made and that reverberate down the years. In the case of Dr St Clair, such a decision had been made by his grandfather, who, reaching for one book in the library, had inadvertently taken another and found himself accidentally immersed in an account of life on a farm in Victoria in the late nineteenth century. That St Clair was a final-year medical student at the time, the son of a bank manager from Dumfries, and on impulse had decided to write off for information on medical careers in Australia. It was a cold, raw day in February, a month when anybody might be tempted to seek warmth and sunlight elsewhere; that undoubtedly affected his decision. Had it been a fine spring day, then the prospect of working in Aberdeen, which would otherwise have happened, might not have been so unattractive; but it was not, and the letter was written. Information came back, together with an invitation to apply for a post, and that letter determined the shape of several lives, including that of his grandson, Bertie’s psychotherapist.