Time becomes the big enemy, since eventually his leg muscles tire and he must adjust positions to relieve the stress. But that just causes new stress and pressure, so there needs to be another shift, and so on. It creates a downward spiral where shifting becomes more and more frequent. All the while his organs are being raked across the pointed beam.

When he gets to the point where he is shifting continuously, he is now properly Riding the Horse. It usually requires just under an hour for him to get to that point and during that build up time we have some very productive discussions. Once he is fully Riding, it becomes impossible to have a coherent conversation since his mind is pretty much occupied.

Sometimes I have him wear high heels, which both increases his discomfort, and makes a really great sound. The time he is made to ride depends upon the infraction being corrected. The pain level is obviously intense which is, of course, the point. A session on the Horse makes him very penitent.

By the way, I recently began introducing him to the idea of cuckolding.

He put up a bit of fuss (for him) at first, but a session on the Horse can be very persuasive. The great thing about the Horse is that it requires hardly any effort from me. Time and weight, physics if you will, do all the work. In fact, the only effort required from me is to make it stop, and I have all the time it takes. We also use other punishments, but the Horse is fast becoming my preferred correction instrument.

I never understand why women are so resistant to considering dominating their marriage. I've read that some women think it is too much trouble or too weird; and it would be if you had to cater to someone else's unrealistic fantasies. But the reality of it is much different from that, at least the way we live it. I use the analogy of having an automatic dishwasher: set it up and let it do the work. If something is not working right, take corrective steps until it's fixed. Really, while life is never that simple, it doesn't have to be super complicated either. I fully endorse women making their men be useful, productive, labor-saving joys to love and cherish! If their men are predisposed that way, even better!”

Leather Sex and S&M are merely additional expressions of the male desire to submit to the female and the female desire to dominate her man.