Much like Denise, Gwen and Brandon’s wife, Anna has made cuckolding an exercise in mental domination and mental sex between the liberated wife and her cuckolded husband. To the novice, it would appear that the wife who cuckolds her husband is selfish and promiscuous but that is not necessarily the case. When you talk with couples who practice cuckolding, you discover that their lifestyle is an agreed upon lifestyle and in fact, most of the time it is the husband who initially encourages the wife to pursue this lifestyle. When a woman humiliates her husband to this degree, it actually becomes a form of mental sex between her and her husband. Her abusive and cruel ways might excite him and touch his submissive nature in ways that most would not understand. The psyche of the submissive male is a fascinating study and it can be complex.

My personal feeling on cuckolding based on my research is that a woman who will use cuckolding as an excuse for cheating and being promiscuous, is hurting her marriage and risks permanent damage to her marriage. Cheating is never right and having sex with another man behind the husband's back is infidelity. However, as long as the husband is also excited by and agrees to the cuckolding, than it is not cheating.

The bottom line is that Female Domination should enhance the marriage.

If either partner has a real problem with any FemDom activity (especially cuckolding) then they should not engage in it. If an activity will not strengthen the bond of the marriage and the level of intimacy and trust between that husband and the wife, then the activity is not worth it. Like all things, cuckolding needs to be discussed openly and honestly between the husband and the wife to see how they both feel about this subject and the wife must ultimately make the final judgment.

Chapter Twelve

Mental Domination: Humiliation Play

Some of them want to use you, Some of them want to be used by you; Some of them want to abuse you, Some of them want to be abused. (The Eurythmics, "Sweet Dreams”)

Roxanne works as a phone counselor for a popular phone domination service. She has spoken to over three hundred male clients seeking to be dominated by a woman over the telephone. Her clients are men from all walks of life; business executives, physicians, lawyers, truck drivers, and the whole rich spectrum. A common request that Roxanne receives from her phone clients is the request to be verbally humiliated. When Roxanne first stated out as a phone counselor, she could not believe how many men wanted to be humiliated by a woman. This surprised her in the beginning of her phone career but now she is experienced in the art of humiliating men and she has verbally humiliated hundreds of paying clients over the telephone. What do these men seek?