Some couples enjoy having intense BDSM scenes, as that is what draws out more of a man’s submissive nature and more of a woman’s dominant nature. While the majority of FemDom couples do not engage in extreme Sadomasochism activities, there are couples who like to explore and expand the limits of female sadism and male masochism. As long as these couples are educated about such practices and as long as they practice a safe, sane and consensual lifestyle, the potential is there for them to bond on a deep emotional level.

Lee makes an important observation when she mentioned how some men fantasize about being a masochist only to discover the reality is a far cry from the fantasy. In the first chapter of this book, Jeremy shared his story about how he was obsessed with female sadism and male masochism.

Jeremy became sexually aroused when he read the “Kalmann Diaries” which was a series of fictional articles about female sadism that appeared in Club Magazine back in the early 1980’s. As a result of these erotic articles, Jeremy became convinced that he needed to experience male masochism to a sadistic female. He became obsessed with his desire to such an extreme that he put his dreams and his life on hold for years while he sought sexual and submissive fulfillment. Then once he found the sadistic woman of his dreams, he quickly discovered that the reality of being severely whipped and abused was not pleasurable but instead was painful and unfulfilling. Jeremy discovered that he was not really a masochist after all. He only thought he was.

A couple of chapters ago we met Darren and he told of his real life experience of becoming his wife’s 24/7 slave. Darren is of the sexual and emotional make-up that he finds fulfillment in such an advanced FemDom relationship. Yet, he is quick to point out how difficult and how challenging such a life can be in reality. Most men would not want such a life, no matter how aroused they may become when they read erotic stories of female sadism and male masochism. The fact of the matter is that while a lot of men want to be dominated and brought under the authority of a loving female, most men could not handle being a real masochist to a sadistic woman. They may think they want to be a masochist because they enjoy the fantasy but the reality is that most men would not enjoy being on the receiving end of severe D&S activities.