He was panting and gasping for his breath and he was slightly coughing from choking on the rubber penis. It was then that I informed my husband that I had made the decision that I would never perform oral sex on him again. From now on, he was going to be the only giver of oral sex in our house. He would perform oral sex on me as much as I desired and he would also have to suck my dildo on occasion to remind him of his place. However, I would never suck him again. My husband nodded his agreement to my new rule. I had broken him down and I never felt more powerful in my life.

I took off the strap-on harness and I ordered my loving husband between my legs. He orally pleasured me until I had multiple orgasms. It didn’t take long because I was so turned on. After I was satisfied, we laid together and embraced. He looked so at peace. You would have thought he was the one who had just had the orgasms but the fact is that my dominance had taken him to a place of submissive fulfillment. I could tell that he would not trade that for any kind of orgasm.”

By submitting to strap-on play, a man is surrendering his will over to the female and he is acknowledging her dominance and her supremacy in the relationship. This activity can transport a man to subspace and he may find fulfillment on a higher plain than just the sexual realm. That is what Kathy discovered when she introduced strap-on play into her marriage.

By dominating her husband this completely, she had struck a chord within him. The submissive male desires to be dominated and disciplined by a woman. Most men long for this inside and spend a good portion of their lives searching for this void to be filled within them. Once they experience the strong yet loving hand of a dominant female that they trust and love, it fulfills them and it brings to them tranquility and contentment. The strap-on is merely one tool in the dominant woman’s arsenal. Male orgasm denial is another.

Chapter Ten

Role Reversal in the Bedroom: Female Domination through the Strap-On

“I must not be denied, I can’t be denied”; and with that he fell to kissing me so violently, I could not get rid of him. (Daniel Defoe, “The Fortunes and Misfortunes of the famous Moll Flanders”, 1722)

Woman's power lies in man's passion (Leopold von Sacher-Masoch, “Venus in Furs”, 1869)