This is definitely an advanced and some would say extreme form of Female Domination but they are both legal adults and there is no law that says they must engage in intercourse. The women of June’s FemDom group think it is sexy that an attractive older woman is marrying a cute younger man whom she is going to keep chaste and a virgin in order to make a social statement. The women I talked with about this subject think it is romantic that this young man would be willing to live such a selfless life in order to be married to a dominant woman. I would imagine each time this young man orally services his dominant wife, she will think to herself that he is still a virgin and that will add to her an extra ingredient of arousal and excitement.

This young man has a freewill and obviously this power dynamic is as exciting to him as it is to her. In a way, they are having sex of the minds and that is more powerful and fulfilling to the submissive nature than actual physical sex. Physical sex can never touch the intensity or pleasure as the mental stimulation of D&S of the minds. After all, the brain is the greatest sex organ. Not only is their sexual dynamic providing intense stimulation to them but also to those whom they share their story with. This young man will get to serve a woman in a way few submissive men ever will. Such a relationship is not for most but as we have discovered, certainly not totally unique.

Female Domination and D&S is about a sexuality of the minds. It takes on many forms but the reason those who practice a FemDom lifestyle are so passionate about it is the amount of intense mental and physical pleasure they experience when compared to traditional or vanilla sex.

Since the mind is the greatest sex organ, sex can become so much more than the mere exchange of bodily fluids. Arousal begins in the mind and arousal’s intensity is developed in the mind. The body follows the mind so relationships which make a social statement to the couples involved can increase the intensity of sex because living their daily lives becomes a form of fore-play and sex becomes an act not so much between two bodies but between two psyches.

One controversial FemDom activity that usually incorporates both orgasm denial and sex between the psyches of the dominant wife and the submissive husband is the sexual practice known as cuckolding.

Chapter Eleven

Cuckolding: Female Liberation or Promiscuity?

To be the slave of a woman, a beautiful woman whom I love, whom I worship…who binds me and whips me, treads me underfoot, while she gives herself to another. (Leopold von Sacher-Masoch, “Venus in Furs”)