We will take a closer look at the practice of controlling a man’s orgasms through the use of a chastity device but next we will look at another FemDom activity that is gaining in popularity among FemDom couples.

One element to Forced Feminization that Hillary mentioned was her use of a strap-on harness and rubber phallus to reverse the traditional sexual roles with her husband. The strap-on has become a common sex toy used in Female Domination relationships. In the next chapter, we will examine the psychology behind the strap-on.

Chapter Nine

Role Reversal in the Bedroom: Female Domination through the Strap-On

If I take you from behind, Push myself into your mind; When you least expect it, Will you try and reject it? …Give it up, do as I say; Give it up and let me have my way. (Madonna, “Erotica”)

Cindy’s rise to the head of her marriage was unconventional to say the least. She was a homemaker while her husband was the breadwinner.

Cindy possesses a strong personality and she always expected excellence from her husband. Cindy will admit that patience is not one of her virtues. Cindy tried her best to be the traditional wife but inside she felt she could do a better job of heading up the marriage. Her husband's descent into servitude occurred extremely quickly. He lost his technology development job in April of 2002 and Cindy was thrust to the role of providing for her family.

“I suppose I could have been a supportive kind of wife, but I wasn't.

Maybe I just don't tolerate failure well and I was worried about money and our status in the community. Or maybe I saw his trouble as an opportunity to assert myself. Whatever the reason, I began belittling and berating him for his pathetic efforts at finding a new job. The fact that he didn't fight back just made me bolder. Since he was home, I assigned him chores so that he could at least do something to help out the family. He was too sheepish to object and I was too sharp-tongued to put up with any resistance, especially once I discovered that I really liked bossing him around. The day I ordered him to hand wash my lingerie, and he did, I knew that things were never going back to the way they had been.”

Summer break for the kids was fast approaching and Cindy decided to go out and get a job. She also had a background in technology, although several years of child rearing had reduced her skill level somewhat.

Nevertheless, she found a job quickly. Some businesses actively look for women and Cindy is not the kind of woman that easily takes no for an answer. Employers liked that kind of enthusiasm and persistence and Cindy had her pick of some good paying jobs.