Darren’s situation is extreme but not unique. Over my many years of participating in this lifestyle, I have on occasion encountered these types of FemDom arrangements. Such an arrangement obviously leaves the man open to an abusive situation, yet what makes this arrangement work for Darren and his wife is the fact that they first enjoyed many years of marriage and intimacy. They deeply know each other and they first established a relationship of trust. Darren’s wife seems harsh and cruel but their track record together allows Darren to trust his wife with this much power and control over him.

Slavery is to lose that position of partnership. Obviously no man loses his free will and in a free society, a man can always walk away from a relationship. Darren is free to walk away from his situation. But to the man who wants to give up his free will to a woman and who can endure a life of total servitude, the thought of walking away will not be an option because the life of being a woman’s free-will slave is fulfilling. It is rare but it does exist. Most men never descend to such a depth in their submission but Darren finds his current position to be satisfying and fulfilling. Most men fantasize about being a true 24/7 slave of a woman but the reality is that few men could live it.

Mistress, Queen and Goddess. The nature of a woman is complex, as she is the giver of life, the Nurturer, the Mother, the Wife, and the Matriarch.

A woman is kind, tenderhearted, merciful, beautiful and sexual. Society has labeled women as the fairer sex and the weaker sex. But women are also strong, manipulative, selfish, powerful, dominant, aggressive, and authoritative. The submissive male worships a woman for her many moods and submits to her many moods. The male gender craves to submit to loving female authority, no matter how it is expressed.

Chapter Fourteen

Age Regression and Female Authority Figures

When I was a young boy, Said put away those young boy ways; Now that I'm gettin' older, so much older, I love all those young boy days. (John Cougar Mellencamp and G.M. Green, “Hurts So Good”) I'm a Bitch, I'm a Lover, I'm a Child, I'm a Mother! (Meredith Brooks, “Bitch”)

One of the questions I ask a male client who has submissive desires is “Can you recall the first time you realized that you wanted to be sexually dominated by a woman?” Quite often, the male’s answer will be an experience from his childhood that involved an adult female authority figure. Briefly, here are few responses: