When she returns and loosens the gag (leaving me still tied), I am dying to apologize to her and "make it up to her" by serving her sexually. At this point she accepts my apology and calmly explains how I am expected to change my behavior in the future. Then when she is satisfied that I am contrite, we exchange "I love you's" and she goes away again leaving me bound to the chair for another half hour or so. By the time she finally releases me, I am ready to explode with both lust and loving emotion for her.

I know that some BDSM writers believe that female domination practices must only occur in romantic or sexual scenarios, but we believe that since she is the boss 24/7, that it is even more important that she be able to assert herself during disagreements. I can testify that emotionally, it is very effective for both of us.”

What this wise woman has discovered is she’s taking a negative experience and turning it into a pleasurable and positive one for her husband by incorporating female domination. She realizes that by placing him in bondage, eventually his submissive desires will come to the forefront and overpower his anger and frustration. She knows that he cannot resist her dominance and authority. His anger melts away and he chose submission over anger and frustration. She is one smart lady.

If only more women would use their sexual and dominance weapons to defuse arguments and fights in their marriage. Once a wife knows what causes her husband to become weak and submissive, she needs to use that knowledge whenever her husband steps out of line and displays negative behavior. I have defused many of potential serious arguments in my own marriage by ordering my husband, in my most bitchy and commanding voice, to drop to his knees and to kiss my feet or lick my shoes or kiss my tush. He fumes and he is reluctant but he can't refuse me when I get bitchy with him, so he reluctantly falls to his knees and begins to unenthusiastically kiss my feet. In a matter of seconds, his anger flees as his submission and passion explodes and he begins to kiss and lick very enthusiastically. Then if we have time, I take him to the bedroom for a little attitude adjustment or if we don't have the time, we just hug, make-up and go on our merry way. Female domination is very powerful and a smart woman will use that power to keep harmony in her home.