A man can motivate his Queen to have more D&S sessions within the bedroom by serving her outside the bedroom. Then when she comments on what a great job her male servant is doing around the house or being attentive to her needs, he can open up to tell her how their last D&S session (when she wore that wild leather outfit) is helping to motivate him. By telling his Queen that he feels so in love with her and so submissive toward her that he cannot help but to serve her, a man is demonstrating the kind of attitude that will stir his Queen’s dominance and she will want to play with her man more frequently. But if the submissive male nags her about wearing leather and having a D&S session, she will become disheartened and she will be turned off. That is reality. True submission comes from serving a woman without the expectation of getting something in return. It is Ok for the man to be honest with her about what motivates him, but he needs to serve her regardless of her mood. That is true male submission.

The male within a FemDom relationship must motivate his Queen by showing her the benefits to a Female Domination relationship. The wife who has embraced FemDom obviously enjoys some aspects of this lifestyle but it is important that the male allow the female the room to grow. The worst course of action for a submissive male is to push his Queen too hard into the D&S aspects of the relationship. That will only result in turning her off. The male with submissive fantasies and desires needs to focus on serving his Queen on how she likes to be served and that will provide her with the motivation she needs to perhaps don some leather and to wield the whip. Give to her what she needs and the male will in return be given what he needs.

The woman disciplines, dominates, and humiliates a man in order to fulfill his desires and in order to train him for her service. This lifestyle should enhance romance, not take away from it. A woman needs romance and not all D&S need be wild. Here are some practical ways a man can romance his Queen within a D&S setting: Write her poetry when she is not with you and allow your submissive feelings toward her to be channeled from your mind to your hand as you write (or type) your heart felt feelings for her. Then when she is in your presence, get on your knees and recite your poetry to her.

Buy her gifts, flowers, or balloons and present them to her. If she dominates you some night, you should be enthralled with her the next day and you should go out of your way to express your gratitude by surprising her with a gift.