Life consists of decisions and fence sitting only leads to stress and uncertainty. Having a dual nature is known as being double minded and it is difficult to grow in life when you are double minded. The two minds will always be in conflict with each other and you will have many internal struggles. Double mindedness causes a person to make decisions only half way and thus goals and accomplishment are never fully achieved. If a man wants to experience true submission to a woman, then he must lay aside his male pride and humble himself by submitting to his Queen. Once she begins to take charge, the man must allow her. It is not always easy, even for a submissive male, to yield his will over to the will of his partner. This is especially true when the woman makes a decision that the man does not agree with. At such times, this is where a man’s commitment to his Queen and this lifestyle comes into play. The submissive male still has a freewill and he is free to be difficult and macho toward his Queen but such an attitude will never bring him submissive fulfillment.

Submission is a desire but it is also a decision. The human will decides which force within him will win. The more a man submits to a woman, the stronger that desire to submit to women will grow and thus it will become easier to submit. The sooner a man can come to terms with his desires to submit to the female gender and the sooner he makes the quality decision to choose submission when he dislikes the choices the female makes for his life, the sooner he will experience true submissive fulfillment.

It is easy for a man to say that he loves his Queen and he wants to serve her but if he spends all of his time fantasizing about his Queen in leather and in D&S scenarios, then is he really focusing on her needs? Now it is Ok for him to visualize her in leather and to recall how sexy and dominant she was during his last D&S session with her. However, he should use that image and that sexual excitement as motivation to serve her outside of the bedroom. The reality is that the submissive male must learn to channel that sexual and submissive energy into doing things that are pleasing to her and much of that will be in non-sexual and practical life situations.