Patrick recognized from the beginning that both my native intelligence and career ambitions were superior to his own and he willingly conceded to my preeminence as Head of Household. Although successful in his own right, both as an engineer and later as an engineering manager, he simply is not comfortable in a position of authority or leadership. Away from work, he has never shown any real skill or even interest in the exercise of power and authority, which to me has always seemed so perfectly natural and easy. It was thus with relative ease that our marriage soon settled into its essentially Matriarchal pattern that enabled me to launch my own career. I simply informed Patrick that I intended to go to college, attend law school and become an attorney at his expense. I required him to pay for my education, provide me with tutoring in several subjects, furnish me with a car for transportation and maintain an ample spending allowance for myself.

This career decision and the attendant financial arrangements also helped establish the First Rule of Our Relationship: We discuss; I decide; he obeys. In cases where my mind is already made up, or I feel strongly about a particular issue, the need for discussion is obviated and Patrick is simply informed. This eliminates the need for discussion in about seventy percent of all cases, allows Patrick to concentrate on his engineering career and leaves other issues in my far more capable hands. My decision to require that Patrick underwrite my education went very far in establishing my Authority and re-enforcing my complete control over him. At no time has he ever resented this arrangement and has always accepted it natural and logical. This pliability of character, his easy-going manner and child-like naivete are all very endearing to me, and through the years have steadily deepened the bonds between us.

I do love him so much!

Upon graduation from law school with honors, I obtained a position as an associate attorney with a prominent firm here in San Francisco, at which I became a junior partner in less than two years. Thus I began to eclipse Patrick professionally and financially, as his engineering career had already passed its zenith. It was thus inevitable that I should take complete control of our finances, as my law practice was now the principal source of income. I soon realized that control of our income and assets meant much more than just financial freedom -- it meant complete freedom! Professional and intellectual freedom assured me continued success in my already burgeoning law practice. Financial freedom awarded me the power of investment to secure my future and my now rapidly rising standard of living. More importantly, it meant the freedom to determine and to live my own lifestyle. To enjoy such complete social freedom and such complete moral freedom also secured its highest, final and ultimate expression -- My complete sexual freedom!