So what would make a man gladly submit to (or even crave) this kind of treatment? The reasons can be numerous. First, there is the joy of escaping into a fantasy world. Second, there is the sheer sensual delight of the emotional risk and the physical stimulation. Finally, there is the bliss of sharing the deepest possible intimacy and trust between two people. If the male will truly surrender and fall into the infant role, he will get to see and experience the loving and nurturing side of the female nature. As an adult male role-playing an infant, he will be able to truly appreciate the beauty and the love that the female ministers as a Mommy. This will bring him comfort and contentment and can even heal any wounds that were caused in his own childhood if he lacked that love and nurturing from his natural Mother. The babied male enjoys being “Mommied” because it feels good from an emotional and psychological standpoint. His reward is sexual and mental pleasure of an intense and prolonged nature. Some of the components of that pleasure may be the desire for discipline (like spankings or punitive enemas) but even the humiliation and the punishment is pleasurable because they promote a psychological surrender to the female.

Without trust, a Mommy/male baby relationship is impossible. Only trust allows the partners to discuss their fantasies in the first place, much less act them out in great detail. If the fantasy entails some humiliation or pain, the deepest possible trust is necessary to make the relationship work. In fact, one cannot imagine a truly satisfying Mommy/male baby relationship outside the bounds of marriage or a long-term commitment.

By giving himself over to his Mommy, a male is saying, "I trust you completely."

Infantilism is not a common lifestyle but there are couples who enjoy this practice. Melissa and Patrick engage in Infantilism and for them it has gone from just role-playing to become an actual lifestyle. Melissa shares their story.

“When I first met Patrick, I was twenty years old, working as an exotic dancer in a cabaret, not far from the refinery where he was employed as an engineer, here in San Francisco. He was a small but intelligent man.

My sheer physical size and strength assured my dominance of the relationship from the beginning and he was mine from the first lap-dance. Within two weeks, I required him to move in with me and our love culminated in marriage six weeks subsequent. I then proceeded to take total control over the course of our honeymoon and he loved it. We have now been happily married for over twenty years.