As women become more liberated and gain in power, there is another societal role reversal that is occurring and that is for the female to seek extra-marital affairs. It was common for the man to have both a wife and a mistress on the side during a patriarchal marriage. Most of the time the wife was powerless since she had no financial means of support. Today, some women are turning the tables and they have both a husband and a lover. However, there is a fascinating element to this within the lifestyle of Female Domination. It is the husband who is encouraging his wife to seek other sexual partners. This practice is known as cuckolding.

The words cuckold and cuckolding are derived from the cuckoo bird.

The cuckoo is a European tree bird that migrates from Africa each spring. The female cuckoo bird lays its eggs in the nests of other birds leaving them to be cared for by these other birds. The French equated this female cuckoo to a woman who is unfaithful and who "sleeps around". The husband of such a woman is know as being cuckolded or married to an unfaithful wife.

In Female Domination this term has come to mean a liberated wife who has other lovers for the sole purpose of humiliating her husband and using that humiliation to drive the husband into deeper submission to her. The dominant wife claims that she is free to do whatever she pleases, including having sex with whomever she desires. The husband must be monogamous to her and must suffer the shame of being cuckolded. In Female Domination, often orgasm denial and control of the husband accompanies cuckolding. The dominant wife enjoys having sex with another man while denying her own husband the right of having sex with her. It is a mind game and a power exchange.

To couples who embrace this flavor of the FemDom lifestyle, cuckolding becomes a form of sex between the psyches of the dominant wife and her cuckolded husband. Denise and Gary are a FemDom couple who claim that cuckolding has enhanced their marriage. How is that possible?

Denise explains.

“My husband and I discussed cuckolding probably twenty years ago. We fantasized together about my bringing home a total stranger to have sex with. This was as foreign to me as skydiving and something I knew I would never really do. But I played along with the fantasy. I had only had sex with two men in my life and I was married to both of them. I'm not a flirt nor the least bit impulsive in my actions. I am very down to earth and practical minded - a realist through and through. However, cuckolding became a reality for us back in 1998.