At the FemDom club, I met a woman who was also a therapist. I took my husband to see her to explore why he wanted to become submissive and if he was really willing to submit to me or was his feelings merely a fantasy being expressed. My husband was adamant that he wanted to be submissive to me and would obey me and not try to top me from below.

We attended several counseling sessions and expressed our thoughts and expectations.

With the help of this woman therapist and our openness with each other, we decided on new living arrangements. I would control the sex. This was difficult at first. I generally am not an aggressive woman, nor controlling one, but I am learning to be both. My husband though submissive still had a strong sex drive, sometimes he would revert to his old ways and try to initiate and that created tension. While it was uncomfortable, I had to learn how to discipline him. One of the female dominant friends I met at the FemDom club came over the first time and took me through my first bare bottom over the knee spanking of my husband. He was then sent to time out and to bed without super. He had to learn, and so did I, that I am in charge and I say when and where for everything now. I was finding this very liberating.

Inside our home and around female dominant friends, my husband must address me as Ms Kari and my lady friends as Miss or Ma'am. He must sit at my feet and unless I tell him otherwise, in only a tee shirt and chastity device. To control his habit of masturbating and to constantly remind him of his submission to me in all areas, I purchased a CB-2000

chastity device. I am the key holder and he wears it 24/7. He is also now my houseboy. It is such a joy to be relieved of household chores. Hubby is learning to be good at doing domestic chores. On those rare occasions when he has been a little lazy on housework, I find a teaspoon or two of castor oil, punitive enema and an over the knee spanking works wonders.”

There are a number of quality chastity devices on the market, ranging from affordable to quite expensive. There is the Access Denied, the Chastity Tube, the Tollyboy belt, the Carrara belt, the Neosteel belt and the ever popular CB-2000 (just to name a few).

Why a chastity device? Some men have a problem with self-control when being denied and other men (like Priscilla’s husband) have a habitual habit of frequent masturbation. Within most FemDom marriages, masturbation is forbidden as once again, the depleted male is a lazy male. In cases where the male is having problems resisting the temptation to pleasure himself, a chastity device is an option for the dominant female to ensure obedience in the area of male sexual self-control.