I keep him denied most of the time and our life now is so much better (especially for me). Each day he tells me he falls more in love with me and thanks me for allowing him to serve me. He thanks me for allowing his submissive nature to be revealed, actualized and nurtured. Each day he submits his will to mine and puts my needs and wants ahead of his. I too love him more and more. I sometimes feel selfish but then I realize we are doing what hubby wants and what makes him happy.

Our marriage is based on mutual respect and understanding. We both are committed to making our relationship not just successful but joyful.

As with any relationship, even a female dominant one, it takes effort from both of us to achieve our desires. I am learning how to be the decision maker in our relationship. I was raised to be a traditional submissive wife, but in the last several years I have become the opposite. Hubby is still very much apart of my decision making process. I am learning submissive does not equal stupid or weak. Hubby is very smart and wise.

I always seek his counsel before making a decision. I want him to feel he has a role in our relationship. It's just not the dominant role. He will give his thoughts when asked and accepts the decision. I also know no matter what crisis may pop up, hubby will not run and hide. He is there next to me supporting me. It's wonderful knowing I have such a helpmate.

As wonderful as hubby is, he is still a man. I have also learned men generally are not the equal of women and will mature only so far.

Fortunately hubby understands this and accepts his diminished role in our relationship. I know what's best for us (and him) and set rules for him to follow. Hubby tells me he appreciates me doing this. He tells me just because he was born with "balls" does not make him as mature as me and he needs rules and guidelines and discipline. While he hates spankings, corner time, punitive enemas, mouth washing, being put to bed without dinner (he really hates that one), and being denied, he knows as a man he needs corrective discipline. He thanks me for loving him enough to not allow disobedient behavior on his part. He thanks me for putting forth the effort to discipline him.”

So how did Kari go from complete novice to such a believer in Female Domination?

“Through an alternative newspaper here in my home town, I discovered a FemDom club. I was curious, but I didn't want to go alone so my best girlfriend (my husband is my best friend) went with me. At first I thought no way could I become a dominant woman but with encouragement from the other women I was meeting and my husband, I began what I consider a transformation.