“The dominant wife or dominant woman should start out by taking her submissive man with her fingers. She should wear a latex glove, use plenty of lubrication such as KY Jelly, and “finger fuck” him before using a dildo. She must always begin dildo play by opening a man up first with her latex gloved fingers. If he has never been taken like this before, she must start out with slender butt plugs and work her way to a dildo. She should remind him to relax his muscles and set him at ease in the beginning by talking to him in whispers. And she must, she absolutely must always use lots of water based lubrication.

The rectum lining stretches so a woman needs to start out small and slender and over time, work her way to a thicker dildo when penetrating a man. After a slender butt plug, she could try a five to seven inch dildo that is on the slender side. She must use a thinner dildo before going to a thicker one.

The female could take the male from behind with him bent over the bed, a table or a chair with his legs spread wide. Or she could take him with him lying on his back with his knees spread and tucked toward his head.

It depends if she wants to see his face as she is taking him. It is important that the woman communicates with her submissive as she is inserting the dildo into his rectum. She should remind him to relax and she should guide the dildo into him slowly with her hand, even if she is wearing a strap-on harness. Once the dildo slides in and the woman feels comfortable, she will probably feel powerful and will want to increase the speed and the force of the thrusts of her hips.

Some strap-on harnesses support a two-headed or dual dildo so a woman can insert the one side into her and the other into her submissive.

That way she can experience physical pleasure as well as the mental satisfaction of dominating a man in this fashion. There are even vibrating harnesses that can stimulate a woman’s clitoris as she takes her submissive man. As with any sexual activity, each couple must experiment to find what works best for them.