Also, use common sense. Always clean the dildo (or better yet, make your submissive clean the dildo) after each use with bleach or anti-bacteria soap. A woman should have a separate dildo for her own sexual pleasure. Any dildo she uses to penetrate her submissive male must be specifically for that use only. I would also recommend always using a condom on the dildo when engaging in strap-on play for hygienic reasons and I would replace the dildo with a new one every so often and discard the old ones. Over time, the lubrication works its way into the rubber or silicone and it needs to be replaced in order to guarantee proper hygiene. If you replace your toothbrush every couple of months, you should also get into the habit of replacing your dildos.

Once a woman becomes skilled and comfortable engaging in strap-on play, she will experience a tremendous power rush. As with any new D&S activity, the female must take it slow and experience will come with practice. After each session, it is vital that the female communicates with her man to find out what he liked and what he disliked about the strap-on experience. Also, she should afford him a safe word during the playtime, regardless of the activity.

Karen was both nervous and excited about the prospect of dominating her husband with a strap-on.

“I finally gained enough confidence to give it a try. I went ahead and bought one on line and could not wait to open the plain box when it arrived. I signed for it like it was a book of the month, knowing full well what was inside.

Well....SUCCESS! I bought a nice 6" silicone dildo that actually vibrates and is so real that when placed right next to his penis, they look exact in skin tone. Of course this one is a little longer and much thicker than his. When you squeeze this one, you have a firm handful but when I squeeze his, it collapses right down. Well last weekend, for the first time in my life, I screwed a male in the ass, not once but three times! It was even better than I expected and read about and I still can't believe that I did it myself. I am still giddy with joy. I did a lot of what I read about and went ahead and had him take two enemas ahead of time to cleanse himself for me. He sure knew what was coming but when I walked into the room with that so real penis jetting out from my hips and firmly pointed at him, he was almost in shock at the reality. I was actually quivering from being nervous and excited.