What do I get out of it? Being disciplined by my wife brings me contentment. I feel loved. Only a wife who loved a man would be willing to discipline him for his own good. I needed structure in my life and Trudy brings me that structure. Besides, you should see her in her corsets. Wow, I would gladly endure all of her canes just to behold her beauty and her hourglass figure that her corsets enhance. I realize that those corsets are not comfortable to wear and I am a lucky guy that she enjoys wearing them. She also loves the Victorian dresses and outfits.

She gets to live a fantasy life and also be a vital part of our community.

We keep the two separate but this life enhances that life. We have a fantastic marriage and I owe much of it to our life of Female Domination.”

Female Domination and Discipline need not be confined to marriage. A Female Domination relationship that incorporates discipline can exist between two consenting adults in a non-intimate relationship. Not all FemDom relationships need be about sex. The story of Kristen and George is a perfect example of how Female Domination in a non-intimate relationship can be beneficial and fulfilling to both parties.

Kristen is a former member of Trudy’s group and was willing to share her story.

“I am a librarian at a local college, divorced and in my early forties. My ex-husband had introduced me to D&S and Female Domination. I thought he was weird and perverted at first. Actually I still do but that is another story. Anyway, we met some people who are into the scene and I got to know a few women who were self-proclaimed Dominant women.

They were members of a FemDom group that enjoyed a softer and more maternal form of D&S. They were into spanking and punishing their husbands in order to train them to be well-mannered gentlemen. They were not into leather, BDSM, or anything real kinky. They liked to dress up in Victorian era clothes, have old-fashioned tea parties, and have their husbands serve them. If their husbands ever displeased them or disobeyed them, they would be disciplined through over the knee spankings or if it were a serious offense, they would be caned.

I enjoyed my times with these ladies and I really got into the Victorian era. I loved the clothes and the way these women handled their husbands. Unfortunately, it wasn't enough to save my marriage so I eventually got divorced.

Once on my own, I went to work as a librarian at a local University.