Whipping and spanking a man is an art and a skill that is developed over time through practice. People who are repulsed at such a lifestyle between consenting adults have never taken the time to understand the psychology and the sexuality of such an act. The skilled woman does not discipline a man in a violent manner. She starts out light and makes it sensual, than she slowly builds it up to harder and more severe. She does not start out too hard or it will not be erotic. Disciplining the man you love can be an extremely sexual activity, not to mention it can be very productive in training the man you love to become the type of husband you desire.

The goal of the physical punishment is not what it does to a man’s body but rather the effect it has on his mind. Spanking or whipping a man is not an act of violence but rather an act of love. The more a woman does it, the better at it she will become and the more her husband will desire it. Discipline and nurturing are the flip sides of the same coin of love.

Men desire physical discipline and men need physical discipline. It is satisfying to their soul as it acts as a sort of a relief valve that releases pent up stress and frustration, as the submissive male surrenders his will over to the woman’s will. Discipline is a very natural and healthy activity between two committed and loving adults.

When I discipline my husband, I touch his inner child and this transports him to a place of peace and tranquility. He doesn't always enjoy the actual spankings and whippings as they do sting but he enjoys the effects they have on his psyche. It causes him to lose control and it causes him to surrender. Men have told me that physical punishment drives rebellion and stress out of their bodies. I believe this to be true because I can sense and see the anger and frustration leaving the body when I physically discipline a man and I see that look of peace and contentment on the man's face afterwards. Not to mention as a woman, I feel powerful and liberated when I discipline a man. Based on the feedback I have received from other women, I am not alone.

Victoria is a Professional Dominatrix with over twenty years of experience in disciplining men. I asked her if she could supply some practical advice to the novice female when it comes to disciplining a man.