From my years of counseling and interviewing submissive men, it has been rather obvious that the male desire to be in submission to the female gender has very little to do with temperament. There are submissive men who are introverted, shy and passive and there are submissive men who are aggressive, outgoing and extroverts. The male desire to submit to the female cannot be over analyzed. Some have tried to explain the popularity of the professional Dominant woman (a.k.a. the Dominatrix) as being a way for the aggressive businessman to obtain balance in his life. It has been said by some who have examined the phenomenon of the D&S lifestyle that D&S attracts men of power and of a “Type A” personality because FemDom gives these alpha male types a chance to be on the receiving end of aggression and power instead of being on the giving end. In other words, Female Domination gives the macho male an avenue to find balance.

Then there are those who have claimed that FemDom attracts men who have a low self-image because they harbor a secret desire to be abused.

Some in the field of Psychology believe that the Melancholy is most likely to develop masochistic desires. These two theories contradict each other. If FemDom primarily attracts shy and insecure males, then why do so many aggressive and extrovert males also desire to be dominated by a woman?

Just as a man’s temperament cannot be used to determine the source of his submissive desires, a woman’s temperament cannot be used to measure her potential to be dominant. Women who are Melancholy or Phlegmatic are just as capable of being Dominant as women who are out-going. Dominance is primarily an attitude. It is an inner nature and it is authoritative. Out-going and aggressive women are more easily turned on to Female Domination but they do not necessarily make the best Dominants. Some of the most dominant and authoritative women that I know are very laid back and quiet. They dominate more with their aura and their self-confidence than they do with strong outward personality traits. One woman I know rarely raises her voice when she dominates a man but she has the most intense stare and controlling aura about her that men crumble in her presence. She believes that she is superior to men and she walks with that confidence and that authority.