The vast majority of the time, it is the submissive male that introduces the Female Domination lifestyle to the wife. The male desires and longs to be dominated by his wife. In the beginning, his desire to submit to the woman is greater than the woman's desire to dominate and to be served.

However, over time this changes and the woman's hunger to be in charge and in control will become as strong, if not stronger, than the man's desire to submit. Once this balance is achieved, the FemDom relationship becomes very fulfilling to both partners. It transcends any other kind of relationship as the bond of trust and love between the Dominant woman and the submissive man grows beyond what either ever thought possible.

Few women want a man to be a total doormat. The male needs to bring the proper balance to any relationship. Fantasies do not always translate to reality. The female is superior and the male should always treat her as such and should always strive to obey her and to serve her. But she also needs a friend and a life partner. A relationship must be about more than D&S. A man should not sacrifice the things that his wife or girlfriend loves about him at the altar of D&S. D&S will enhance the relationship but it cannot be the foundation of the relationship.

A woman needs a life partner whom she can share her goals and dreams with. She will need a friend that she can share her hobbies and interests with. Yes, the dominant woman calls the shots. Yes, some dominant women love to don leather and engage in D&S. Yes, the dominant woman needs to be worshipped and served by her man. However, she also needs stimulating conversation, a dinner partner, someone to have fun with, and someone to share life with. The man should be his Queen’s friend, partner, lover, servant and slave. A woman needs all of this in a man.

One of the biggest misconceptions about this lifestyle is that a man must lose his masculinity when he submits to a woman. While some men want to be feminized and stripped of their masculinity, a majority of submissive men are still quite masculine. Many dominant women and dominant wives like to dominate a masculine male and they like to control a masculine male. What most dominant women dislike is a macho male, not a masculine male. There is a big difference. Dominant women like to strip a man of his macho ways and his male ego, not necessarily of his masculinity.