Scott describes a similar experience. He was watching the 1983 movie “My Tutor”, a comedy about a young man coming of age. In this film there is a scene where the high school boys pretend to be adults and solicit favors at a local brothel. In what is meant to be a humorous scene, the one unsuspecting lad (still a virgin) ends up with a beautiful blonde woman who wants to make his first time unforgettable. She binds him in an upright position against a device known as a Catherine's Wheel. Once he is secure, she changes into something more comfortable but instead of lingerie, she appears in a leather outfit, at which the young man proclaims, “Oh my God!” After teasing her helpless young victim to the edge of arousal, she spins the wheel, sending him in circles and in a panic as he watches her open a closet door full of whips. The next scene shows the young male running for his life as the Dominatrix chases after him, cracking her bullwhip.

Once again, just a harmless scene in a silly movie meant to be comical but to a young man like Scott, it was a life changing experience. Scott experienced a sexual arousal he had never felt before and from that day forward, all of his sexual fantasies involved Dominant women. Scott would visit a dozen Professional Dominatrixes over the next couple of years.

Steve was overwhelmed with submission desires when he was a teenager while watching the 1987 John Ritter and Jim Belushi movie, “Real Men”. As with Ryan and Scott, Steve was merely watching a mainstream comedy, not expecting to become aroused, when out of left field a scene involving a leather clad, whip wielding, dominant woman came upon the screen and caused Steve to experience an intense sexual arousal, unlike anything he had ever felt in his life. Steve could not shake what he felt and would spend the rest of his teenage years reading and fantasizing about Female Domination, which lead to a life of visiting Professional Dominant women and calling up Phone Domination services.

A number of men that I counseled mentioned the movie “Real Men” as containing the scene that they most identified with when it came to expressing what it was they were seeking sexually. In this scene, the James Belushi character meets an attractive, girl next-door type in a bar.

She seems very sweet. He escorts her home and she invites him into her house. She knocks him out and he wakes up in bondage. This sweet woman is dressed in leather and she begins to verbally dominate him, she whips him and she shocks him with electricity. He resists in his male macho ways but she breaks him down and the movie cuts to a scene where he is confessing to her his inner most secrets while she is lovingly stroking his face. The next scene shows them in bed after having sex.