I’ve seen tears in his eyes from the sensitivity and pain this can cause. I may sit on his face and have him pleasure me while I twist the clothespins and flick his penis and balls with my fingers. I might scratch his skin with my long fingernails or I will lightly caress his body with one of my sharp and prickly vampire gloves. I may light a candle and drip hot wax all over his nipples and his genitals. It sounds cruel but he loves it. We are members of a BDSM group and I have been educated on how to play rough in a safe way. I never injure him, maybe just hurt him a little, but he is a big guy and he can handle it.”

Most couples who practice Leather Sex practice a safe, sane and consensual form of BDSM. Although there are couples who like to experiment with Female Sadism and male masochism, these couples usually incorporate the use of a safe word so the submissive can stop a session at any time if he is in any real pain.

“Felix has a safe word and he will use it if I go too far. That is rare because I have learned how to read his body language and I will usually stop before he asks me to stop. We also like to do Pony Play and I have a saddle specially made for him and I will ride him around our house while I slap him with my riding crop and even nudge him along with the spurs that attach to my leather boots. We play rough but we have a lot of fun.”

Nicole will be the first to admit, even with all the outfits, props and toys, the majority of FemDom is practiced in the arena of the minds. All of the hardware is just the icing on the cake. One does not need to invest in thousands of dollars of stuff to practice Female Domination. The attitudes of those involved are the key to a successful and fulfilling FemDom relationship.

Lee has sadistic tendencies and she likes to incorporate a more intense form of discipline as she trains her husband in the ways of obedience.

“I have controlled my husband for all of our 7 married years. My husband confided that he had always had female domination fantasies and he showed me some of the literature he had collected on the subject.

I enthusiastically embraced the concept. Before we were married, we agreed that he would obey me at all times no matter what, unless doing so would endanger his or my life, or cause some other dire consequences, and that he would submit to whatever discipline I imposed.