From Darrell: “I had this Aunt who was really built. She was a very dominant woman and she would boss my Uncle around. My father would make jokes behind their backs about how my Aunt had his brother by the nose. It bothered my father but I loved being near my Aunt. Our families would camp together every summer and I would love spending time with my Aunt. As I came into puberty, I loved watching her swim in the river as she wore this tight one-piece bathing suit and I remember seeing her nipples through the swimsuit. She often displayed quite a bit of cleavage.

I remember that I would lie in my tent at night and hump the air mattress, pretending that my Aunt was sitting on top of me in her one-piece bathing suit, bossing me around like she did my Uncle.”

I have counseled many males over the years that had some variance of the Adult Woman/young boy fantasy. Probably the most common ones are the Babysitter/little boy and the Teacher/pupil fantasies. The Aunt/nephew, Mommy/son, and Governess/teenager are also popular among submissive men.

This fantasy revolves around female authority and it usually involves some sexual elements. When a male is an adolescent and is coming of age sexually, his first sexual fantasies are usually geared toward the adult females in his life. Some boys become sexually attracted to their Babysitters, Teachers, Aunts, older Sisters and even their Mothers. A boy's first orgasm might be through masturbating at the fantasy of having sex with one of the female authority figures in his life. It might even be with an article of the Female Guardian’s clothing, such as a bra, panties or pantyhose.

Besides the sexual aspects of this fantasy, there is almost always domination and discipline involved. The submissive male that has this fantasy wants to submit to the adult woman's authority. Some submissive men enjoy travelling back in time in their minds to become a boy again, and they want to be spanked by the babysitter, smacked with a ruler by the teacher, paddled by his mother or female guardian and possibly caned by his Governess. The discipline by his female authority figure adds to his submissive and sexual desires toward her.

There is usually a form of the desire to submit mixed in with the sexuality. A young boy is accustomed to being bossed around and dominated by the adult female authority figures in his life. Then when he begins to enter puberty, his sexual fantasies often involve being the helpless victim to an adult female authority figure. He fantasizes that she has her way with him and thus teaches him the facts of life from her experienced and skillful authority position. Not all boys start out their sexual exploration with these types of fantasies but it is surprising how many boys do.