Lots of dominant women do embrace the whole leather and B&D scene for these activities do provide great tools in the training and the disciplining of her man, as well as adding fun and excitement to their sex lives. Other women enjoy a softer D&S relationship, as they prefer a Victorian type of discipline and training of their men. Still other women love to be the dominant partner and love to rule the marriage but they do not like to incorporate D&S. Some women are Female Supremacists, while other women see themselves as Feminists and others see themselves as equals with men but with the belief that the wife needs to lead the husband.

The most important thing is that each couple must keep the lines of communication open, as honesty and openness are crucial in a female domination relationship. A woman needs to be open minded to explore new things as her submissive shares with her his deepest desires. It is all about negotiation and fulfillment. I ask women, what touches his submissive nature? Does he have a leather fetish? If so, then wear some leather. Does he have a foot or a boot fetish? Does he crave whippings or spankings? Does he enjoy the helpless feeling of being in bondage? I tell women to find out what stirs her man's submission and then do these things to him. A smart woman will take a man’s submission and channel it into his service of her. A wise woman will use her dominance to draw out more of her man’s submission and then use that submission to get her needs met and fulfilled.

I like to equate D&S as a dance. The man seduces the female's dominant nature with his submissive nature. She then begins to draw out more of his submissive nature with her dominant nature, which draws out even more of her dominance, which draws out more of his submission, and so on and so on. D&S works much like a magnetic force, with two opposites attracting. The Female's dominance feeds off of the man's submission and his submission feeds off of her dominance. The one needs the other to thrive and to grow. It is similar to how the plant world and the animal world function with the plants giving us the oxygen we need and we in return give the plants the carbon dioxide they need. As we breathe in their gift we give them our gift as we exhale. So goes it with Dominance and submission. The female gives the male what he needs by dominating him and the male gives her his gift by submitting to her and treating her like his Queen.