I totally agree with Roxanne’s evaluation of humiliation play. The purpose of shattering a man’s ego and stripping him of unhealthy male pride is so I can build him up again in such a way that he will respect and yield to the feminine. Most men have been programmed by a male dominant society and thus they may have some wrong perceptions about women. I may use verbal humiliation in the bedroom or during a D&S scene to break my husband of unhealthy macho attitudes but I am also quick to praise him outside the bedroom for being such an obedient and loving husband.

Do I feel unladylike when I utilize verbal humiliation? My philosophy is that if you can't let your hair down around your husband, than whom can you be free around? I like to talk erotic and sexy around my husband when playing with him. I call him names in the bedroom that I would never call him in our everyday life. I rarely use foul or vulgar language outside the bedroom. I try to be a lady and I don't appreciate people using obscene language around me. There is a time and a place for everything. I don't use obscene language around my husband during our everyday living, but when we "play", I feel free to talk very "dirty". This turns us both on.

As far as verbal humiliation goes, some women humiliate their men by teasing them, rather than being a Bitch. Some women tease their men about having a small penis in a playful and sexy way. Other women do it in a loud, bitchy way. Each woman must find what works best for her and than she should just relax and have fun with it. Some of the best Dominant women I know never raise their voices. They dominate men with their sexuality and their dominant aura. They talk in seductive whispers and dominate with their seductive stares and their dominant body language. Domination does not always have to be brazen and forceful. It can also be mysterious and sensual. Either approach can touch a man's submissive nature and either approach can be used in humiliation play.