One of the many services the professional Dominatrix offers to her clientele is what is known in D&S as Humiliation Play. This is where the woman will humiliate a man both verbally and physically in order to fulfill some sort of psychological need within him. The humiliation triggers something within the male psyche based on the equation of his submissive nature plus his life experiences. As was the case with cuckolding, it is the mental stimulation that triggers the submissive and sexual desires within the male and this trigger can cause mental pleasure and sexual arousal. What to one person may seem as being mean spirited and abusive, to the submissive man within the safe confines of a D&S scene, it is pleasurable and even therapeutic.

Humiliation Play will transport some men to subspace, and the more intense the humiliation, the deeper level of sexual excitement and mental fulfillment. For the most part, the professional Dominatrix is not there to counsel a client about the root cause of why he wants to be abused and humiliated. All she knows is that the man requests this activity and he is willing to pay a woman to humiliate him. A large number of men crave to be humiliated and certain men can only become sexually aroused if they are humiliated by a woman in some manner.

These are not isolated cases of only men who were seriously abused as children. From my experiences in counseling with men who desire to be humiliated, most males who desire humiliation play do not know why they like it. All they know is that something on the inside of them enjoys it when a woman humiliates them and even abuses them within a D&S or sexual setting.

Some men who desire humiliation play may have been abused but these are the exceptions and not the status quo. To those males who were abused or mistreated in their childhood, humiliation play can be pleasurable as it touches a psychological trigger that stimulates them mentally which produces an intense sexual arousal. When a person has a physical wound in their flesh, it is both pleasurable and painful for it to be touched. Scabs tend to itch and the desire is there for it to be scratched. The same goes with an emotional wound or hurt. Many times a man who has been mentally abused as a child can only get aroused through being verbally abused or humiliated. What may seem cruel to most people is actually pleasurable for him, if done within a sexual setting. A man may seek Humiliation Play because he desires for those emotional scars to be touched. This is what fulfills him sexually. Within a loving FemDom relationship, the dominant woman who has had an intense "humiliation scene" with her husband can bring emotional healing to him by afterwards holding him, kissing him and loving him.