Dating a younger man placed Lydia in the dominant role with a man and this interaction released her dominant desires and true nature. It found its expression in her mind in the form of sexual excitement by being an experienced woman in the dominant role with an inexperienced man.

This actual experience triggered sexual stimulation in her mind for some unknown reason. She loved having power over this younger man and to her, that power comes from keeping him a virgin. This gives her an incredible amount of control and power over him and it is that power that arouses her and unleashes her dominant energy. It makes sense that they eventually came into D&S because the controlling of a man's sexuality is D&S and Female Domination. At its most basic point, her desire is a desire to control and sexually dominate a man. This fills her with power and that power makes her aroused and sexually excited.

Lydia is not alone in this kind of relationship. Some friends of mine (June and Jim) are active in a FemDom support group that has a couple in their group where the woman keeps her submissive male partner a virgin (and intends to continue down this path once they are married). I will allow June to tell this story.

“We are members of a FemDom support group that meets about ninety miles from our home. This group meets twice a month and is made up of a half dozen couples at the present time. Our FemDom group meets in the home of the founding couple of the group. They have a "secret" room in their basement that has D&S equipment and that is where our group meets and plays. Due to the limited space in their home, they have to keep the membership to no more than six couples at a time. Whenever a couple must drop out for whatever reason, then they allow another couple to join.

A few months ago, a new couple joined our FemDom group. The woman is forty-one years old and very attractive and her submissive boyfriend is only twenty-two and is as cute as can be. He has a boyish looking face, blonde hair and all the women in our group just love this young man.

As is a custom when someone new joins, the Female introduced herself and talked about her experience in FemDom and her philosophy as it relates to Female Supremacy. She then had her young submissive introduce himself and he was rather shy but did a fine job in speaking to the group about why he likes being in submission to women. Then his Mistress made him confess to the group his rather interesting secret. He blushed a little as he told the group that he is still a virgin.