If all women could see that look on their husband's face or feel that kind of intimacy, they would flock to this lifestyle. Unfortunately, many women just see the leather outfits, the whips, and the techniques that dominant women use to get their men into that magical state of deep submission, and they think that this lifestyle is "strange" or "bizarre". If they would only look past the tools that dominant women use and the techniques that they utilize, and if they would instead focus on the results that they bring, then I believe that most women would openly embrace the Female Domination lifestyle. Women are searching for that kind of intimacy and that kind of relationship. If they would only understand that most men need to be dominated, disciplined, and controlled by a woman in order to be at peace within himself, then I am convinced the majority of women would assume their proper place, which is to be the dominant wife and the dominant woman.

Female Domination is still a minority lifestyle between couples. The professional Dominatrix thrives in our society because the majority of submissive men still must seek out Female Domination outside his home. Many men are eager to surrender themselves over to their wives but they hesitate because they fear their wives might reject them. The biggest obstacle to a female domination relationship is still the reluctance of the female. This just goes to show how successful our male dominated society has been in making women feel inferior to men. As women, we have been programmed since childhood that the man should be the dominant partner in a relationship or marriage. It is never easy to overcome our upbringing and our traditions. Women still struggle with thoughts that Female Domination is "abnormal". This is especially true if they were raised in a strict religious upbringing. Women struggle with the guilt that they may be going against what God has designed.

The first time I was exposed to this lifestyle, I thought it to be strange and perverted. I went in viewing these people as being sexually dysfunctional. However, I soon learned that most of these people were healthy and normal. There were people from all walks of life, religious backgrounds, and professions that were members of the D&S group I attended. Now I will confess that there are extremes that people go to with D&S that is not healthy but that is the same with all things. Eating is not a negative habit but taken to extremes, it can be unhealthy. The same goes for a person's sexuality. From my years of studying and living this lifestyle, I can tell you that the desire of a man to submit to a woman is not perverted. As a matter of fact, it is very common among men. I believe it is the number one sexual desire among men living in our society. Perversion is defined as that which is outside the sexual normal.