Cuckolding is a very controversial topic. I have interviewed couples who claim to have wonderful experiences with cuckolding and I have had people tell me about their terrible experiences with cuckolding. I have heard tales of unwanted pregnancies, STD's, and great emotional pain all caused by cuckolding. A friend of mine who has successfully cuckolded her husband for fifteen years says cuckolding is like dynamite. If used properly it can be a very useful tool in dominating a husband but used incorrectly, it will blow your hand off. She goes by the name of Ms Lilly and her philosophy is that the husband must be an active part of the entire cuckolding process and the wife must be focused on how the cuckolding will affect her husband at all times.

The overall consensus among those who enjoy this alternative lifestyle is that cuckolding should only be attempted within a healthy and strong marriage. It may seem like the opposite would be true but cuckolding in a weak marriage will destroy the marriage. Only where the husband and wife are secure in their love for each other and only where the husband trusts his wife's judgment and character, can cuckolding be done successfully. There has to be a strong marital foundation to withstand the potential emotional stress and intense power exchange that can come from cuckolding.

It has also been my observation that the marriages that successfully incorporate cuckolding are the ones that first enjoyed many years of mutual monogamous sex. Denise and Gary were married for almost twenty years before they engaged in cuckolding. Anna has a similar story to tell.

“I have been living a FemDom lifestyle with my husband for over twenty years. He introduced it to me about five years into our marriage and I embraced it and have been practicing it ever since. We have had our challenges, like raising three children while we kept our lifestyle a secret from them, but overall this lifestyle has been a tremendous amount of fun and sexual fulfillment for the both of us. I think it is fair to say that we have tried almost everything as it relates to FemDom and D&S over these past twenty years.

Lately, however, I felt that we had gotten into a bit of a FemDom rut.

The kids are grown and on their own and it is just the two of us. It was liberating to have the entire house to ourselves at first and believe me we took full advantage of it. Nevertheless, after twenty years I felt we needed something extra to take us to a new level in our FemDom marriage.