Leather? Whips? Masochism? So is Female Domination really S&M? Hardly! Female Domination is a broad umbrella with many forms and expressions. The desires of Sacher-Masoch are rather common within some men but they are only but one expression of the overall desire to be dominated by a woman. What many classify as being S&M is really nothing more than D&S. The abbreviations D&S (Domination and submission) and B&D (Bondage and Domination) have replaced S&M (Sado-Masochism) in the circles that practice alternative lifestyles.

Many submissive men have explored the world of S&M because that is where they were hoping to meet a lifestyle dominant woman. Most of these men are not masochists but merely submissive. Likewise, most of the women who join these groups are not sadistic but merely outgoing and dominant. Therefore, these groups are now considered D&S groups that cater to a wide range of alternative lifestyles. Some call them D&S groups, some call them BDSM groups (putting the emphasis on the Domination) and some call them Fetish groups.

Thanks to the occasional mentally disturbed criminal and Hollywood sensationalism, the term S&M triggers negative images in the masses.

Therefore, the terminology D&S has replaced S&M in defining such groups or organizations that cater to alternative lifestyles that deal with one partner sexually dominating the other. Such BDSM groups like the Eulenspiegel Society in New York city or the Black Rose in Washington DC, attract submissive men as they search for dominant women. Once again, in my opinion, what many of these men are searching for is not merely an alternative form of sexuality but rather loving female authority.

One must understand the submissive male to understand how the female domination lifestyle is fulfilling to him. Not every female domination relationship is the same. Some are more advanced than others based on the desires of the individuals involved. Some couples keep it confined to the bedroom and female domination is a way to spice up their sex lives. Others take it outside the bedroom and into their everyday life. To these couples, female domination is more of a lifestyle and a belief system.

Regardless of the degree of the female domination activities, I have found that a majority of the couples who practice female domination claim to have better marriages and relationships than they did prior to practicing female domination. They claim to enjoy deeper intimacy and more fulfilling sex lives.