Jemima clears her throat. Every woman in the room is totally captivated, hanging onto every word. I grab my notepad and a pen from my bag. A famous actress is sitting right in front of us – I think of how much Gill would love this scoop.

‘I’m sure there’s loads of you, especially you young women in the room, who just know, you know, you don’t want kids. That’s the young woman I was, too. I was snapped up by the film and TV industry at a relatively young age, I studied in the UK at an acting school and got my big break in theatre before auditioning for Six Women. I became very famous, very quickly. I had the best time, made the best memories. But at one point I also blamed that show for what it robbed me of too. I’d accidentally left it so late – putting the effort in to try and start a family. But then I thought to myself, I have twenty-hour days working on this sitcom. My mornings would start at 3 a.m., I’d nap in my trailer for a bit and then work through until 1 a.m. some nights. How would that work? How could I do that, and be a good mum too? Years later, I started letting dark thoughts slip through. Had I let some TV producers take away my chance to have kids? But no, the truth is, I clearly didn’t want them enough. I could have made it work, or made the time, or worked less if I’d really had a desire to have children – just like I made time for everything else in my life that I wanted – but I didn’t. I now mentor young actresses and I get to be maternal in a different way. I just want everyone in this room to remember to look deep inside and know sometimes we don’t have to stifle ourselves with the pressure. We don’t have to build up this huge unanswerable question in our heads: Do I Want Kids? It hangs over us, but why? Sometimes we can just roll with it, make smaller natural decisions as we go along and follow what makes us happy daily, and in doing so we will make the right decision for us in the end, without turning it into something so pressurized. Do you know what I mean?’

This is the first speech that has deeply resonated with me. Some of the others felt a little forced, or something just didn’t quite add up. But Jemima’s story felt so heartfelt and real. She hadn’t chiselled the fact that she didn’t want kids into stone; she came to it naturally, gradually. It was just something that made sense for her as she lived her life. Sometimes we don’t ‘know’ for sure, and maybe we never will, but we just have to live each day in the way that feels most natural to us. I feel a weight lift off my shoulders.