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Perhaps I wouldn’t have tried many of the things Hubby has made me do; they did not come naturally to me. Knowing he fucks other women and living with it was very, very tough; is very tough. But I’ve done them all—to keep Hubby happy, to keep my marriage going and to keep my mother-in-law out of my marriage.
I suggest you do the same, all you girls who’ve been writing in about your marriages. Particularly those who’ve referred to my earlier post on Kaama versus Maama and said they don’t know what to do in bed.
Read a dirty book, pick up a sleazy magazine or watch porn to get some ideas. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again, sex saves your marriage. No matter how boring a marriage it is.
I’ve heard women talk about love missing from their marriage or a certain spark that’s not there. I’ve never heard a man ever complain of love or sparks, but I have read about many who talk about how their wives don’t please them (enough). If women wish for romantic dinners/flowers, men fantasize about blow jobs. And both parties wish the move was unprompted—
‘If only I didn’t have to remind him of the anniversary all the time.’
‘If only he would suggest we go out …’
‘If only she would learn how to do it right.’
‘If only she didn’t close her eyes …’
I’m not making it up—I’m quoting emails many of you have written to me.
If you want flowers or him to take you out for gol-gappas—whatever rocks your boat—learn to give a blow job right. Watching a bit of porn might help and if not, there’s always Google. I don’t know of a single man who does not like it. If you want him to show more interest in you than in the evening news, BE more interesting than the evening news. Dress sexy. Show cleavage. Show arse. Shave/wax down there. Never mind how humiliated you feel initially or how unnatural it seems.
Seduce your husband. If you know what he wants, give it to him. If you don’t, then find out or just try something different. The least you can do the next time you have sex is moan loudly. If you’re adventurous enough, you can talk dirty. In other words, behave like a porn star, even if you might not look like one. Remember every man has a porn star fantasy.
For those worried about that missing spark, ignite it in bed. For those worrying about a too busy husband, an uninterested husband or a husband interested in something/someone else, sex will save your marriage.
It’s another story that I do all of that and yet my Hubby fucks other women. Life can be a fucking joke sometimes.