Imaginative sex, one supposes, could be any enhancement of sex beyond the sweet commonplaces of usual intercourse. For example, making love on the rug rather than on the bed would be imaginative sex. For some, something as simple as putting your wife in earrings and a necklace in bed, and otherwise nude, would be imaginative sex. For some, an enhancement of the ordinary beddingsdown would be as simple as to tell your wife to wear lipstick and perfume in bed. Such little things can make great psychological differences. Sex for the hippopotamus may be largely a matter of genital friction but good sex, for the human being, is likely to require, or at least be dynamically responsive to, psychological contexts and stimulations. Psychological factors are inordinately important in the male’s attainment of erection and later ejaculation; similarly, they are inordinately important in the female’s attainment of orgasm. It is a mistake to neglect them; and to maintain that is morally improper to enhance and cultivate them is not only pernicious but stupid. There is nothing wrong with wearing perfume in bed, even though, in fact, it might improve your husband’s sexual performance.

Many of the sexual games and fantasies to be shortly discussed, of course, go well beyond the boldnesses of wearing earrings or perfume in bed.

Many of them trade heavily on common male/female fantasies, fantasies which are normally, for no good reason, kept concealed. If there are values in openness and self-expression, and it seems there are, then the acting out, in a protected love context, of certain fantasies might be excellent for mental health, the release of tension, the erasure of misplaced, conditioned guilts, if they exist, which can come with communication, and with the development of the mind and imagination through exciting, stimulating, challenging creative activities. The object, of course, of the games and love episodes is not mental health or development, but fun, enjoyment, delight, pleasure. There is nothing intrinsically worthwhile, it must be understood, about misery and boredom, self-denial and pain. It is morally acceptable for human beings to be happy, regardless of what we may have been conditioned to believe in this respect.