The “rape thing,” incidentally, is a motivating force in initial sexual contacts. The man desires, wants to have, the female. So he makes his advances. He approaches. Perhaps he spies on her. Perhaps he follows her. He sets himself where she happens to pass. He learns her habits, her clothing. He walks past her house at night, unknown to her. Where she is, she finds him, as though by accident. They meet, as though inadvertently. He finds it difficult to take his eyes from her. He gives her a lift in his car. She must lock the door. She must wear his seat belt. He is hunting her.

Any intelligent girl, from the first conversation, from the first telephone call, will catch the scent of the prowling male. It is then up to her whether she wishes to encourage or discourage her hunt. This puts her in a very difficult position because she is likely to have very mixed feelings not only about sex, which women tend, with some justification, to fear, for it is often exploitative of them, but about any given male. To begin with, most males will not be sexually interesting to her. She might become sexually interested in them, but, initially, she is not. That this is the case may reflect that she is the game, and not the hunter. It is natural that the impala is not much interested in the average lion; on the other hand, it is natural that the average lion, at least initially, is much less picky about impalas, that he is much more broad-minded, no pun intended. Further, even if the girl is sexually interested in the given man, as opposed to thinking that he is “nice,” or something, she is likely to have ambiguous feelings toward him. He may appear to her both attractive and threatening. She may sense that he is intent upon her capture, and this, in itself, would be sufficient to inititate anxiety. She might fear the loss of her freedoms, of her potentialities for other activities and other human beings. It is no wonder that girls are often “teases.” They are probably not so much teasing, as they do not know what to think; they are scared. They both want a man and fear him. There is justification for both attitudes.