The nervous and unsure woman who knows little about D&S may begin to feel powerful when she dresses in a sexy, fetish outfit. As she views herself in the mirror, she will see that she radiates power and sexuality and this may give her more confidence. Attitude is the key when dominating a man and a woman who looks powerful will feel powerful and the woman who feels powerful will be powerful. No man can overcome a woman who looks dominant and gives off an aura of dominance. The fetish outfit can assist in these goals.

Female Domination is more about a woman’s attitude than her outfit. A woman who knows who she is and what she is about will command attention and submission from a man, regardless of her attire.

Nevertheless, men are visually oriented and the outfits and props can greatly assist a woman as she uses a man's fetish to stir his submissive nature. It is not so much the clothes but rather the energy a woman perceives coming from the man when he sees her in the fetish outfit. The attire gives the woman an edge and she can use that edge to her advantage during a D&S scene.

If the appearance of a woman in a fetish outfit causes a man to become overpowered with submission, it would be foolish not to use this weapon against him. Attitude is the key and a woman can dominate a man with her looks, her aura, her voice, and her sexuality. The tools and the toys are there to assist.

Once a couple becomes experienced in this lifestyle, the need for fetish outfits are not as necessary. Since attitude is the key, the woman who is secure in her dominance will learn how to take her man to subspace by getting inside of his head and stimulating his submissive triggers by using her voice or utilizing other more subtle methods. The experienced dominant woman develops an aura and her need to wear fetish outfits will become less. The experienced dominant woman wears fetish outfits for the purpose to exploit the fetish in her man or to merely dress up to add some fun and spice to the session. Each woman needs to learn what triggers will stir a man's submission and each woman needs to utilize those triggers to her benefit.

While I have been unable to find any official statistics, based on my research, the number one so-called fetish among submissive men is the fetish for boots. Submissive men love women in boots. Submissive men say that a woman wearing leather boots (especially those of the thigh-high variety) portrays dominance. Boots are a symbol of female power and superiority. Men have been known to become physically and mentally weak by just the sight of a woman wearing leather boots.

Leather is a powerful fetish in itself and leather boots makes this fetish within submissive men an even stronger fetish.