It is ironic that our estrangement has brought us to a mutual understanding, as Mother and Daughter, through our letters, do you not agree? Your father will never understand you, but I do. Therefore, no matter my own reservations about your decision, my fear for your well-being, and my fervent desire to hold you and to keep you safe, what I must do, what you need most from me, is to let you go with my blessing and very best wishes. A mother’s love is enduring, and it is strong. It knows no boundaries and can stretch as easily across the Atlantic as the Irish Sea. Your courage will be tested, Margaret. There will be times when you feel quite alone, when you will be forced to make difficult decisions; and no doubt there will be occasions when your judgement, and your resolve, falter. At those points, remember that you have my love, that I hold you in my heart, and that I am with you in spirit.

I have but one request to make of you, and do so only after much painful soul searching. Your father has specified that your allowance will be discontinued in the event of your being the cause of fresh scandal. You have assured me, and I don’t doubt you believe it, that there is no reason to fear that occurring. Your intentions are always pure, but the outcome of your actions at times— You do understand, my dear, what I am saying? For your own sake, but for mine, too, I beg you to have a care not to rock this precariously balanced boat.

I have said more than enough. I confess I have never written a letter such as this. No-one who knows me would believe me capable of such an emotional missive, but I assure you it comes from the heart, and every sentiment expressed is deeply felt.

You are in my prayers every night.

With much love,

Mama

P.S. I enclose a copy of a book, The Englishwoman in America, written by a Miss Isabella Bird, which you may find enlightening. When I discovered that Miss Bird’s travels were funded by her father, I could not resist purchasing it, though I fear you will find it more moralising than informative.

Princess Louise to Lady Margaret

Princess Louise to Lady Margaret

Osborne House, Isle of Wight, 20 December 1867

Dear Margaret,