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  1. Copyright Notice
  2. Dedication
  3. ONE
  4. TWO
  5. THREE
  6. FOUR
  7. FIVE
  8. SIX
  9. SEVEN
  10. EIGHT
  11. NINE
  12. CHAPTER TEN
  13. ELEVEN
  14. TWELVE
  15. THIRTEEN
  16. FOURTEEN
  17. FIFTEEN
  18. SIXTEEN
  19. SEVENTEEN
  20. EIGHTEEN
  21. NINETEEN
  22. TWENTY
  23. TWENTY-ONE
  24. TWENTY-TWO
  25. TWENTY-THREE
  26. ACKNOWLEDGMENTS
  27. Excerpt: Never Ever Getting Back Together
  28. ONE
  29. TWO
  30. Also by Sophie Gonzales
  31. ABOUT THE AUTHOR
  32. Newsletter Sign-up

Dear Locker 89,

I (17yo F) broke up with my boyfriend (17yo M) about a month ago, and ever since he’s been orbiting me. Liking all my stuff on Instagram, viewing every single story, opens every Snapchat etc. But he’s the one who told me he didn’t want to stay friends. I figure if we’re out of each other’s lives, we’re out of them. I don’t want to block him or anything because we ended on ok terms (he just said he wasn’t feeling it anymore:() and it’s not *bothering* me that he keeps popping up. But I wonder what it means. Should I reach out to him and ask why he’s up in my shit? Or try to start a conversation? Do you think this means he wants me back and is too scared to ask?

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Locker 89 <[email protected]>     7:53 p.m. (0 min ago)

to Hadley Rohan

Hey Hadley!

Orbiting is a great term here. He’s keeping himself in your orbit, and it’s also a sign you’re in his. While I can’t say it’s necessarily a sign he wants to get back together, or he still has feelings for you, I can certainly say you’re on his radar. He is aware of you, and notices your presence. The only time this observation might change is if he’s the type of person who views and likes every single thing that comes across his feeds. You know the answer to that better than me!

Regardless, I don’t advise you to reach out. If he dumped you, and he hasn’t made an effort to get back in touch, then it means that, for whatever reason, he does not want to be in touch right now. Not only that, but if he *does* want you back? After getting dumped, you absolutely deserve to be re-courted with fervor. Don’t take on the emotional load of fixing what he broke, especially given it sounds like the breakup wasn’t any fault of your own. If he does reach out, I recommend you be pleasant, but don’t jump into anything too fast. You have every right to take your time to decide whether your heart is ready to try again, and to ask him what’s changed, and how you’re supposed to know he won’t change his mind again in a month.

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