But like, if usernames don’t mean shit, and you don’t offer gender verification like ChristianSwing, then of course you’re going to have my kind of complaints. Because I was with this really beautiful Latina user who was, like, straight out of porn, super thick lips, sexy voice, and we had incredible sex. And afterwards, we’re lying there and talking in one of my favorite spaces. It’s a mash-up of my past actual rooms, like my high school bedroom and my dorm room, and then my fantasized living space, so it’s pretty personal to me. There’s a whole wall that’s a lava lamp with purple and blue jelly, and it was lighting up the bed where we were lying, watching the blobs stretching and floating, and Jenna says, “Can I tell you something?” I say sure, because I figure she’s about to tell me she likes me—and she does, she says she feels a really deep connection with me. But then she says, “So … my name’s actually Ron.” And I’m like, “What?” “Yeah,” Ron says. “I’m using in Taos, New Mexico. Sorry I didn’t tell you before we made love.” And meanwhile Ron’s saying all this in Jenna’s voice with her beautiful lips and that sexy lisp she makes with her tongue—and it just fucked me up. Because I was a hundred percent sure there was no way she was a guy. “Listen,” Jenna’s saying, “I really like what we have here together—” And that’s when I blocked Ron completely. Like, see you, dude, you’re fucking blacklisted.

So that fucked me up for a while. And, I get it, verifying’s up to us, but for real, your whole Try meeting in a neutral CoffeeShop—nobody’s ever doing that. The most anyone asks is “So, you’re a girl, right?” “Yeah, and you’re a dude, right?” And, okay, maybe that’s not very responsible, but nobody’s trying to be Sherlock Holmes. And the thing is, I just keep thinking about Jenna. Like, if Ron presents as Jenna, but she’s hot and nice, what’s wrong with seeing her again? Even if I knowingly know? It’s a female avatar, right? So, like, it’s still cool to call myself straight, right? Like, what do you think?

Z

I don’t use it for sex. Been there, done that. I was one of your first subscribers. Besides, I host morphing orgies. I don’t know how much you know about that scene, but it’s a very social scene. Very sexual. Lots of entities trying out eros-fluid bodies, lots of partying, lots of drugs. Honestly, it’s a little too much.