‘I have planned everything,’ Osaki said. ‘I do not wish to be any further burden to my family.’

‘But you’re here. I’m glad you are, because it tells me that you still have hope, you’re still open to the idea that there might be another way to proceed. Can we explore that?’

Osaki didn’t answer.

‘You know, I see a lot of people at many different stages in this process. I’ve come to believe over the years that it takes more courage to ask for help than it does to do the deed. You risk not being believed, or thought hysterical or attention-seeking. I can understand that your concerns about the state of your life are real and valid. I believe they would affect anyone, not just you. Where we differ is in the extent to which you are culpable.’

‘Culpable?’ Osaki asked.

‘Responsible. Accountable. It sounds as if there’s an element of racism in your failure to find jobs. Perhaps not overt or even deliberate, but it’s possible that potential employers have been unable to move past cultural differences and find ways to bridge the gap. You’re obviously intelligent and qualified. I see from the form that your degree is in systems management and you’re bilingual. I think perhaps you’re looking in the wrong place for employment. You need to embrace the differences rather than ignore them. Try the university or colleges, perhaps teaching Japanese. What about travel companies, or translation services?’

‘Say I get work. What about my wife? I don’t know what to do about that even if my situation improves.’

‘That’s really up to you. Only you know if you want to save the relationship, but you both have to agree on the way forwards. It won’t be easy getting the trust back, but you should also ask yourself if you’re not owed more. Marriage should be about getting through the tough times together, not just the easy parts of the journey. Can you see your wife at your side long term?’

‘But what would I tell my parents? They do not believe in divorce.’

‘Here’s the thing. Japan is very far from Scotland. You can tell your parents whatever you want to. You’re a grown man. This is your life and you have one shot at it. I respect your sense of family and tradition. I think it’s essential for society to have structure and generational respect, but it cannot be at the cost of moving forwards how you want to.’