One difference was that Epsey was deeply religious and read the Holy Scriptures at some time every day. She had never discussed her parents’ missionary ambitions with Ethan, but after their marriage she had been at first disappointed and, she admitted to herself, then somewhat relieved to find that his interests were not in religious adventures among the Indians.

Some of the verses in the Song of Solomon and about the various biblical families reminded her of one disharmony that had been of concern when they were first married, but it had also been resolved without disturbing their relationship with each other. Epsey had led a sheltered life in a strict and religious home and was uncomfortable about intimate relations. She had never been aroused sexually and looked upon lovemaking as something to be borne as an embarrassing duty to her husband, a masculine peculiarity that was best addressed with acquiescence and reserve. At first she was afraid that he might be disappointed by her reticence, but found that this did not seem to displease Ethan. She considered the rarity of his sexual advances as agreement that her attitude was the correct one.

Despite their differences in appearance and interests, Henry and Ethan were compatible and became close enough friends to confide in each other and to share advice when a major decision was to be made. Ethan and Epsey always visited Henry’s shop when they were in town and usually spent the night with him when they were together. Ethan preferred to return to his homestead, even late at night, when he was traveling alone. Once or twice a month, usually late on Sunday afternoon, Henry would ride out for a visit to the farm, where he enjoyed helping with the chores and expressing his political concerns. Ethan made it clear that he was not particularly interested in politics unless the issues had a direct effect on his family or his farm, and couldn’t understand why his brother became so exercised about events in London, New Bern—where the governor held court—or even Hillsborough. As the months passed, he became concerned about Henry’s increasing anger and distress. Despite all this, he and Epsey were polite listeners as Henry expressed his strong views.

One afternoon the brothers were sitting on the cabin porch, involved in a typical conversation. Henry was addressing a well-worn subject.