Two years before that, my ballet teacher had told my father, “Don, she’s talented. There’s no doubt about it. She just doesn’t have the body for it. Through no fault of her own. Hattie’s healthy. Fit. Limber. She has grace and power. She’s just too tall and big boned. She simply isn’t built to be a prima ballerina.”

And even before that, Mom had said, “Hattie, sweetie, dance for you. If you’re not dancing for you, you need to stop dancing.”

I thought I was dancing for me.

I loved dancing.

I loved dancing and painting and calligraphy and helping Mom decorate her cakes.

“My artsy girl, my free spirit, my rainbow,” Mom used to call me.

But I’d messed up, twice, during my solo routine at the audition for the Chicago Academy. They’d let me start again, but not a third time.

And after, Dad had lost it, backhanding me, catching me on the jaw.

Right in front of everybody.

Huge drama.

Huge.

The teachers were horrified and ticked. They threatened to phone the police.

Mom had lost her mind.

“If you think you’re getting custody now, Don, you’re insane. I’ll fight you ’til I die, until I die, you monster.”

And I’d retreated from their hate, doing physically what for years as they hurled it at each other I did mentally. I curled into myself in a corner, just like “After.”

A teacher and Mom had talked me out of my solitary huddle, and all the way back to the hotel, Mom was on me, “Has that happened before, Hattie? Has your father touched you like that before?”

I told her no.

And he hadn’t.

He’d never hit me.

But she stayed on me.

So I confessed that he’d pinch me. Grab my arm in a way it hurt. Sometimes pull my hair.

“How had I not seen this?” she’d lamented, openly torn to shreds. “How did I miss this? How didn’t I know this was happening?”

I didn’t have the courage to tell her it was because I hid it.

Though, it was out then and Mom had carried through with her vow. She dragged it all out into the open during the divorce and she won custody of me.

It came with a price though.

One I paid when I was with my father.

So my dad had hit me, my mom was a mess, and I felt guilt and shame I didn’t tell her what was happening so it was me that made her feel that way, I was humiliated in front of the admissions board of one of the most prestigious performing arts high schools in the U.S., this after I failed my audition because…

Well…

I blew it.

And I stared at “After” knowing I was really, really good at one thing.

Blowing it.